You are your master.
Only you have the master keys to open the inner locks.
~ Amit Ray
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You are your master.
Only you have the master keys to open the inner locks.
~ Amit Ray
Girl on wolf found on Pinterest
It takes courage… to endure the sharp pains of self discovery
rather than choose to take the dull pain of unconsciousness
that would last the rest of our lives.
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As I said on a post the month I began this blog, it takes great courage to face who we’ve been…how we’ve been…what we’ve done and said, or not done and not said…all the while having great compassion and love for ourselves. To look with gentle eyes. To forgive ourselves our past. To be bold enough to let it all go so that we can see who we truly are. Not only does it take courage, it takes commitment, discipline and tenacity. And the willingness just to begin.
The energies are ripe for this work. There is so much available in terms of support, resources, inspiration these days, including the Wise Words posts on my blog. Here’s another great way to get started: Brene’ Brown, the author of the quote above, has given a couple of Ted Talks you may enjoy. My first exposure to her work was the talk she gave on vulnerability. If you’d like to listen you can do so for free on the Ted Talks website. She’s also done work with the never more potent Oprah and has a new book out called Daring Greatly.
Opening to greater awareness…exploring Self…this is the work of a lifetime. I applaud all who take it on. You have my honor and blessings.
It has the power to uplift, to heal, to stimulate, to surprise, open new doors,
bring fresh experience and create excitement in life.
Certainly it is worth the risk.
~ Leo Buscaglia
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It is that time of year, when the Universe makes room for activities with the intent of love. The world opens its collective heart and in so doing, opens to magic and miracles. And the idea that anything can happen at any time seems more possible. The beautiful mystery.
Now is the time…for true miracles, the miracles of understanding and remembrance. Remembering and understanding who you truly are…to love self…and from that place, love your family and friends, those in your community, the world and the Earth herself.
Now is the time…to see yourself through the eyes of Spirit, the Universe, God…whatever you call that expansive love and compassion and wisdom. From this perspective, you are so much more than you believe…or have been aware of…or than you seem. Even your past is more than it seems. There are gifts to be received and given…there are treasures buried deep. Now is the time.
Now is the time…to remember that everything is a mirror for you…even that grand, divine, love. It is time to remember that the truest love, the deepest compassion, that divinity, has been inside of you this whole time.
Now is the time…to live without barriers and limitations. You are NOT limited, you only thought so! It is time to allow yourself to be grounded and soar at the same time. No more excuses.
Now is the time…to allow everything that you didn’t love about yourself to come back into unity. To let it soften and shift and ease. To accept who you are…to love who you are and let it fill you, body, mind and soul. And if that seems too grand a task in this moment, at least be kind to yourself. Now is the time.
Now is the time to speak of love, to speak with love…to be the love that you are. To feel it deep within you. To radiate it within you, for you. And to radiate it out into the world. Now is the time.
It takes a bold and courageous human to be who they truly are, to be their fullness.
Are you ready?
As I like to say…
It doesn’t matter how you begin, only that you begin.
…and with a loving deep breath…
So blessings on your beginning…or beginning again.
And the allowing of magic and miracles…
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As I mentioned in What to Expect, Part 1, while personal transformation, personal awakening is just that, personal, there are some common experiences. Emotional issues, which are often things from our past getting recreated as patterns, reveal themselves so we can break the patterns, clear them out of our way and allow our grander creations to come forth. It’s helpful to see them for their truth and not come to the wrong conclusion. See their gifts!
Emotional issues are linked to change in a couple of ways that I’m aware of. They can be the cause, the impetus behind a desire for change. They also come up in the wake of change as a response.
The latter, first…
When you take a step, when you make a change, doubt, fears, worries and questions can pop up in response to your action. It’s important to remember that this is normal. Everything that isn’t a match to your change, your new creation, your step, needs to come up to be released. They come up as emotional issues, patterns, beliefs. They can’t remain because they are no longer a match to who you are and where you’re going. You’ve changed. Our tendency is to feel all this “bad” stuff come up and then come to the conclusion that we did it wrong, we made a mistake, when in fact, the fact that it’s coming up is a validation, an affirmation that you’re moving forward. Be sure to look at it all through the correct lens.
Looking at your life, your reality…exploring your story…is for the purpose of gaining awareness. When we walk around in life, unconscious, life is just happening to us, buffeting us about. We are reacting, defending, responding. We’re back on our heals and in essence feeling a need to battle life. Choosing to become aware and conscious is part of seeing yourself as the creator of your life. Life not happening to you, but you actively engage it, create it. Asking the questions that get you to insight and wisdom. Using ALL the experiences, even the “bad” ones, as a way to know who you are and who you are not.
While, it’s important to see what the patterns, issues and beliefs are, it’s also important not to over process them. The more we engage them, instead of gleaning wisdom and the clearing and releasing them, the more entrenched they become, the more they dig in. You’ll have to feel into it for yourself, but in my experience, when I’m telling a particular story about my life over and over to everyone I meet, that story, that issue is still active. There is still something to be understood and then let go of…once and for all.
The former, second…
There are many things in life that can nudge (or shove) us into the first steps of our personal awakening — a health challenge, relationship trouble, career issues, just to name a few. Something happens in our life, forcing us to snap out of our regular patterns and life cycles or jolting us out of our stuckness or rut. It causes pain, frustration, anger, some intense feeling, so we’ll pay attention.
Something deep within us is calling for more, encouraging us to step more fully into our truth. The status quo is beginning to chafe. So as sucky as it can feel, all of this serves the purpose to compel us forward, as my mom says, out of our fur-lined rut. Your life is trying to talk to you. First it throws a pebble…then a stone…then a brick…and then things start to get really dicey. (I encourage you to listen well and respond early!)
That’s the good news and the bad news. It’s a pain in the neck until you see the pattern. But having it repeated helps you to see it, so you can finally dissolve and resolve the pattern!
Processing, exploring, releasing and clearing….these are all ways to get started, but ultimately it will be about absolute trust, absolute acceptance of self, love of self, compassion for self and allowing you to be the true and authentic you. Period.
See the steps, take the steps…
Become aware. Once you become aware it, you can never be unaware of it again. Until then, we recreate and repeat and play out our beliefs and issues over and over again.
See it in action. Watch for it. Notice when it plays out in your reality. It’s transferable. What you see in one relationship, you often see in other relationships or situations, from the present or the past.
Work with it. Explore it. Ask leading questions. See it from new perspectives. Use the tools available to you to support yourself. Get at the root cause, which may surprise you. The skills you learn as you go are also transferable.
Embody the wisdom. Don’t keep it alive. Glean the wisdom. Claim the gifts. And then let the issue go. The vicious cycle doesn’t need to continue.
Support as you go…
You may find you’d like support with this this deep work. If you’re up to the challenge and looking for a partner in your exploration, this is also a great time to hire a coach…like me. I am passionate about this kind of self-discovery and insight work and I honor your choice to take grander steps into you. Learn more about my practice here.
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Breathing. It’s automatic, right? Well, yes and no. The shallow, thoughtless breath is, if not automatic, common. Default mode. Conscious breathing, that deep, fully-present breath, is not automatic, yet it is natural. It’s what your mind, body, and spirit crave. Breathing is our connection to life. It tells your body, the wholeness of you, “I choose life!”
Breathing is so simple AND it is a powerful and effective tool. It’s free AND freeing. You don’t need extensive study and training to learn how to do it. You can do it anywhere, anytime. It is natural and easy. You can use it when you’re in a difficult situation, experiencing the daily pressures of life, or taking time to relax.
When you are outside of the present moment, lamenting the past somehow or worrying about the future, you are like a vacant house. So, when the resources, people, potentials and opportunities show up, you are not “at home” to greet them and receive them. The breath will support you in being home to receive…being home to really live.
What is conscious breathing?
Conscious breathing is breathing that is deep and full. You are fully present in the now moment. You drop down into you. The mind quiets and the belly fills. You feel a sense of calm and relaxation melt over you. It is rhythmic and natural. Imagine the breathing of an infant. They do it so easily, so naturally. No thought. No effort. Just a deep, peaceful breath…in and out…in and out. There aren’t a lot of rules around this, but breathing through the nose is very beneficial, as it is the body’s humidifier. Also if you’re breathing into the chest and lungs, that’s not deep enough. You’re belly should rise and fall if you’re lying down or move in and out if you’re sitting. It’s that simple.
Where can I do?
Anywhere! Walking down the street, picking the kids up from school, sitting in a meeting (especially sitting in a meeting!)…anywhere.
When should I do it?
Any time you think of it! Feel your shoulders creeping upward, tensing as they go? Take a few deep breaths. Waiting in line at the grocery store…breathe. Under pressure at work…breathe. Waking up, going to bed, taking a shower…breathe!
Why should I do it?
Breathing gets you into the core of you, your center, your balance. It gets you fully present in the now moment, which is where everything happens – where you create, where you receive. When you are consciously breathing, you are not leaking your energy into the past or the future. Your energy is fully contained in the moment.
Breathing does so many things…
Start your day with some breathing. Set up the day for calm and clarity from the beginning. At a particularly challenging part of my own awakening, I made an intentional daily practice of this for a 6 month period. It helped me to feel fully aligned with the grander part of me or rather, the wholeness of me. Before I got out of bed, I’d imagine myself at a trailhead, preparing to set off on my journey. It was a beautiful way to connect more deeply with myself and step off on the right foot each day. I could hear my own voice more clearly and sense the when the voice I was hearing in my head wasn’t mine. The activity helped me cultivate more patience and a sense of calm. And I felt more like I was creating my life instead of reacting to it.
Relaxation Breathing (Inspired by Dr. Norma Delaney’s Breathing Exercise)
Use the above exercise while in a warm bath. Add sea salts to help release more toxins from the body. Also helps release aches and pains that can be symptoms of the awakening journey.
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1. making no noise or sound, especially no disturbing sound
2. free, or comparatively free, from noise
4. free from disturbance or tumult; tranquil; peaceful
5. being at rest
6. refraining or free from activity, especially busy or vigorous activity
Small word, big impact.
“Remember, all the answers you need are inside of you;
you only have to become quiet enough to hear them.”
~ Debbie Ford
Recently, I was with the little boy for whom I sometimes nanny. He’s 1. Late in the morning, he was giving all the usual signals that he was ready for a nap. We went upstairs to read a book and begin to quiet down from our morning of giggling and play. His readiness signals continued but he was also doing lots of things to resist: squirming, muttering, flopping onto his belly for a quick second of stillness, then sitting up again, staring into space then re-engaging the book.
I stayed quiet and calm, letting him lead the way. I rubbed his back when he was still, waiting for his need to rest to overtake the momentum of activity. Eventually he flopped up against me. We took some deep breaths together (yes, I taught a one year old to do deep, conscious breathing…it is a thing of beauty to behold) and within a minute or two came that sweet moment of surrender. He allowed himself to settle into quiet and stillness and then sleep.
Know the feeling?
We live in a world with intense energies, constant noise and the seduction of distraction every which way we turn. It takes great awareness and discipline to stop resisting the need for rest, quiet and stillness, like my little friend, and surrender into connecting with self.
It’s so simple. But for many it’s not necessarily easy. Deep conscious breaths are the quickest way to achieve this connection. Allowing the space and time for stillness and quiet. Turning inward. Allowing insight. Coming back to center when things feel topsy turvy. Letting your mind, body and spirit catch up to shifts and changes.
The cultural norm, at least in the U.S., is to work…go…do. A strong work ethic is highly valued and rarely questioned. For many, needing or wanting rest still equates to weakness or laziness. Sometimes it’s not even a conscious thought, but lives as judgment in the unconscious. It is wielded both inwardly at oneself and externally at others.
Seems to me it’s time for a new norm. There is so much power in silence, so much potential in the space of stillness. Just 10 minutes out of your day. Nothing to DO. Just BEing. Breathing. Feeling and sensing. Allowing your energies to flow. Allowing the focus to be inward. Not chasing down thoughts. Not resisting. Not pushing. Just awareness and noticing.
I wonder what’s possible…I wonder what will show up…I wonder what wants to be released…I wonder what’s there to be received. Don’t you?
Just as I finished writing this post, I came across something on Facebook that resonated and seemed relevant to this post. I felt it deeply upon reading it, as did a few of my friends. Some of us were even moved to tears. It reminded me of a significant and transitional time in my life. After closing my shop and dealing with all the physical and logistical aspects that were required of me, I experienced months of hearing a loud and compelling voice from deep within, imploring and insisting that I rest. Apparently, for that period of time, my “work” was to rest. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. For what is honored and valued in my family is work…and doing…and I was being asked by the grander part of me to rest…and be. I KNEW that I had to cultivate both the discipline and the courage to honor what was true and pure at my very core…and trust that it must be the right thing for me. It has paid off in spades…led to places I could not have imagined…worth every bit of challenge it required me to face!
The person who posted this credited it to Jeff Foster. Does this resonate with you?
Your tiredness has dignity to it!
Do not rush to pathologise it, or push it away, for it may contain great intelligence, even medicine.
You have been on a long journey from the stars, friend.
Bow before your tiredness now; do not fight it any longer.
There is no shame in admitting that you cannot go on.
Even the courageous need to rest.
For a great journey lies ahead.
And you will need all of your resources.
Come, sit by the fire of Presence.
Let the body unwind; drop into the silence here.
Forget about tomorrow, let go of the journey to come, and sink into this evening’s warmth.
Every great adventure is fuelled by rest at its heart.
Your tiredness is noble, friend, and contains healing power… if you would only listen.
In the spirit of eyes wide open…
Not everything that is faced can be changed.
But nothing can be changed until it is faced.
~ James Baldwin
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