Be Inspired: 06.15.20

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.
Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.
Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.
And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

~ Steve Jobs

Wise Words: Hearing Your Own Voice

This has been a theme for the week, so straight to the point…

When you listen to the voices and opinions of others over yours, you are at such a disadvantage. Besides being a form of self betrayal, it is actually impractical. They can’t hear what your intuition is saying. They don’t feel your feelings flowing through you. They aren’t aligned with your soul’s passion and destiny. They haven’t lived your history, nor had your experiences. They can’t feel and sense your potentials like you do. They don’t truly know who you are and what you’re about. Only what you’ve expressed and even that is filtered through their own lens. They don’t know what you know. This isn’t their life to be lived. They don’t hold responsibility for you, for your life. They. Aren’t. You. It just doesn’t serve you to give your own power away.

It’s like putting on someone else’s glasses. Even if the prescription is only a little bit off your own, pretty quickly you’ll start to get a headache. You won’t see with your usual clarity, to be sure. And you just might bang into things as you try to navigate in your world.

Don’t get me wrong, sometimes it’s appropriate to ask for others’ insight, perspective or advice. But it is wise to filter it through your own discernment. Feel into it. Does it feel right to you, for you? The choice is always yours. But it is best when it is a conscious choice and not reaction or and unknowingly defaulting into patterns and programming.

True freedom is hearing your own voice, trusting yourself and making you and your creations a priority. Not in a selfish way, but in a self-full way. Not in a narcissistic way, but in a self love and self compassion way. The world is helped when you take care of you. Otherwise, others are having to clean up your messes. And I’m quite certain when you look around your world and the world at large, you can see examples of that everywhere. What a waste of time, energy, resources, creativity and passion. Among so many other beautiful things, personal sovereignty is so efficient in those ways. And isn’t it great that that is our natural way of being!


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Wise Words: Intuition

When one of the most successful people of our time, Oprah Winfrey, tells us that intuition is real, important and critical to her own success, I think we should pay attention. Really, she’s voicing that deep knowingness, deep within each of us that knows the truth. It’s a new era. It’s time to reclaim our whole selves. Not to is foolhardy, short-sided and, ultimately, not in honoring true YOU.

Intuition, historically linked to women, has largely been discredited until recently. It’s a mistake that it’s linked to woman. It’s true that it’s linked to the feminine energies. There’s a difference. One is gender, the other is the archetypal attributes associated with that energy. Having a balance of both energies, masculine and feminine is natural, fluid and appropriate in both males and females.

Oversimplifying these energies, the attributes of feminine energy include being, nurturing, allowing, intuition, creative, abstract, collaborative and receiving, while the attributes of masculine energy include doing, analytical, concrete, controlling, striving, competitive and assertive. Looking at the list, you can see how all of these qualities can be vital and appropriate in the right setting or situation. But we all know of people or even organizations that lean too far in one direction or the other.

For centuries, longer really, humanity has been out of balance to the masculine. The mind, analysis and logic have been preferred and valued, while intuition, sensing, feeling, feminine attributes have been diminished, condemned, undervalued and denied. Not to put too fine a point on it.

“What I know for sure is that if you were going to buy only one issue, ever, of O, [the one on intuition] would be the one. Learning to trust your instincts, using your intuitive sense of what’s best for you, is paramount for any lasting success. I’ve trusted the still, small voice of intuition my entire life. And the only time I’ve made mistakes is when I didn’t listen.

It’s really more of a feeling than a voice—a whispery sensation that pulsates just beneath the surface of your being. All animals have it. We’re the only creatures that deny and ignore it.

When you don’t know what to do, do nothing. Get quiet so you can hear the still, small voice—your inner GPS guiding you to true North.”

~ Oprah Winfrey

While Oprah shares how using your intuition “gives you a sense of what’s best for you”, Barbara With takes it a step further. In her material, she talks about intuition as one of the key parts of each of us that when giving us a sense of what’s in our best interest it is also, miraculously, the same thing that’s in the highest good of the whole. THE whole. She shares that it comes as “the next small step for the good of the whole.”

Intuition guides you to be at the best place at the best time. But you must discipline yourself to listen and commit to “obeying” as Barbara With describes it. Obeying the nudge, the knowingness, the guidance from within you.

There’s no real trick to it. It’s natural. It’s already within you. You need only allow it. Long ago I made a commitment to develop my intuition. Or if that doesn’t click with you, it’s really just sensing and feeling. This was a critical part of my journey into a deeper knowing of me. It was a part of what I aligned to as part of my morning ritual. I committed to being open to it at all times, to spending time each day in silence, listening in. I agreed to “obey” it when I heard a message, felt a nudge. You also might get it through your inner eyes, as a thought image or “seeing” something in your mind’s eye.

The obeying part is critical, though. Your intuition is giving you the next small step for the good of the whole. If you don’t follow through, your intuition will pull back. Go quiet or dark. It’s patient. It’ll wait. If you insist on ignoring it or sticking with logic at all times, it will honor that. But if you’re like me and you decide to step into trusting self, trusting your intuition, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the outcomes. For me, it’s become so natural. I don’t have to work at it. And my clarity has improved dramatically with practice.

Some tips

Truly, it’s just a matter of cultivating the discipline and committing to it. But here are a few things that helped me…

Make a clear conscious choice about it. Choose to connect with it and expand your abilities. Then make time for it. Pick a quiet spot. In nature is a good choice. And then be still and listen. You may not receive anything for a while. I didn’t. I was convinced that I was the only person that was born without it (Drama much??? ). But one day it just clicked. There it was. Loud and clear. And then I could begin to trust it. Hear it all the time. Not just when I was sitting quietly on my own. Then there was an expansion in how I received information, too. Goosebumps, snapshots of a vision, added to the clear voice I had become used to. Eventually, even my sense of smell got involved. (But that’s a story for another time.)

Explore how you receive your intuition. As I eluded above, the most common are hearing, seeing, and feeling. There are exercises you can do to get clearer about that, but I like things when they’re simple. Not a lot of complexity and procedure. So I’ll let you use your intuition to find them, if that resonates with you. ; )

My friend, Barb With, gave me this one…let it literally be your GPS. Find a time, when  you’re going someplace new. A time when there is no time pressure so you don’t hear your inner voices insisting you hurry up. Make a clear choice about where you want to go and then invite your intuition to get you there. If you get, turn left. Do it. Try not to question it. See it as an adventure. Have fun with it.

Discernment is important in many things, including intuition. In the beginning you need to learn what is mental, what is intuition. Generally, you literally feel mental thoughts in your head. Sometimes there’s a tightness. There’s the feeling of effort. Intuition feels more like flow. It isn’t linked to thoughts. It’ll be as if it drops in out of no where. If you feel cloudy or confused, ask for clarification. I used to ask for things to be louder so I wouldn’t miss it or mistake it. Another rule of thumb I employed was that if it wasn’t an absolute yes, then it was a no. This is a part of you, find what works best for you.


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Intuition. Everyone has it. It is, indeed, part of our personal system. It won’t ever steer you wrong. Get quiet and alone. If you can, sit on the earth. Breathe. Center. Listen. Can I sense it? Can I be still enough to feel it? The next impelling. What to do next, one step, next step. It begins with one step.

Good luck, though I know you don’t need it!



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The Breath

Breathing. It’s automatic, right? Well, yes and no. The shallow, thoughtless breath is, if not automatic, common. Default mode. Conscious breathing, that deep, fully-present breath, is not automatic, yet it is natural. It’s what your mind, body, and spirit crave. Breathing is our connection to life. It tells your body, the wholeness of you, “I choose life!”

Breathing is so simple AND it is a powerful and effective tool. It’s free AND freeing. You don’t need extensive study and training to learn how to do it. You can do it anywhere, anytime. It is natural and easy. You can use it when you’re in a difficult situation, experiencing the daily pressures of life, or taking time to relax.

When you are outside of the present moment, lamenting the past somehow or worrying about the future, you are like a vacant house. So, when the resources, people, potentials and opportunities show up, you are not “at home” to greet them and receive them. The breath will support you in being home to receive…being home to really live.

What is conscious breathing?
Conscious breathing is breathing that is deep and full. You are fully present in the now moment. You drop down into you. The mind quiets and the belly fills. You feel a sense of calm and relaxation melt over you. It is rhythmic and natural. Imagine the breathing of an infant. They do it so easily, so naturally. No thought. No effort. Just a deep, peaceful breath…in and out…in and out. There aren’t a lot of rules around this, but breathing through the nose is very beneficial, as it is the body’s humidifier. Also if you’re breathing into the chest and lungs, that’s not deep enough. You’re belly should rise and fall if you’re lying down or move in and out if you’re sitting. It’s that simple.

Where can I do?
Anywhere! Walking down the street, picking the kids up from school, sitting in a meeting (especially sitting in a meeting!)…anywhere.

When should I do it?
Any time you think of it! Feel your shoulders creeping upward, tensing as they go? Take a few deep breaths. Waiting in line at the grocery store…breathe. Under pressure at work…breathe. Waking up, going to bed, taking a shower…breathe!

Why should I do it?
Breathing gets you into the core of you, your center, your balance. It gets you fully present in the now moment, which is where everything happens – where you create, where you receive. When you are consciously breathing, you are not leaking your energy into the past or the future. Your energy is fully contained in the moment.

Breathing does so many things…

  • helps relieve so much stress and tension
  • invites balance of emotions and calm
  • supports ease, flow and grace
  • invigorates your systems
  • tells your body, mind and spirit that you choose to live
  • helps you to come into alignment, allowing your body to naturally heal and mend
  • responsible for about 70% of the body’s release of toxins each day
  • gets you out of efforting and into flow
  • allows you to pause for a moment, to stop your mind from clicking away, and to let the information you need to come through
  • helps creative solutions and answers to show up and be accessible
  • supports the opening of the feeling centers, making you more sensitive and aware

Start your day with some breathing. Set up the day for calm and clarity from the beginning. At a particularly challenging part of my own awakening, I made an intentional daily practice of this for a 6 month period. It helped me to feel fully aligned with the grander part of me or rather, the wholeness of me. Before I got out of bed, I’d imagine myself at a trailhead, preparing to set off on my journey. It was a beautiful way to connect more deeply with myself and step off on the right foot each day. I could hear my own voice more clearly and sense the when the voice I was hearing in my head wasn’t mine. The activity helped me cultivate more patience and a sense of calm. And I felt more like I was creating my life instead of reacting to it.

Relaxation Breathing (Inspired by Dr. Norma Delaney’s Breathing Exercise)

  1. Lie on your back preferably on something soft and cover with a light coverlet. Bend your knees and move your feet about eight inches apart. Point your toes upward. Let your spine relax straight.
  2. Scan your body for tension. As best you can let your body melt into what you are lying on.
  3. Bring attention to your breathing and place your hand on the area where your navel resides. Inhale and exhale. Notice if you are breathing into your upper chest, or is the abdomen truly moving. People who are nervous will breathe short, shallow breaths in their upper chest.
  4. Place both of your hands gently on the abdomen. Inhale slowly and deeply through the nose into this area. Notice how your abdomen rises and falls with each inhalation. Your chest should move only the slightest amount, if not at all.
  5. Continue to inhale through your nose and exhaling through your nose or mouth. This is as simple and effortless as a baby breathes.
  6. Breathe for about five or ten minutes, once or twice a day. You can also breathe into your abdomen while standing, driving or walking. After a couple of weeks of gently practicing this program you can increase any of these practices to longer periods of time.
  7. At the end of each breathing session scan your body once again. At the conclusion of the exercise notice/compare how you feel now with how you felt at the beginning.
  8. When you allow this program to become the new way you breathe for life, you will begin to notice how much more relaxed your body and you become.

Another suggestion:
Use the above exercise while in a warm bath. Add sea salts to help release more toxins from the body. Also helps release aches and pains that can be symptoms of the awakening journey.


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