Originally posted on Blogspot on March 29, 2012
You are beautiful,
not for the shape of the vessel,
but for the volume of soul that it carries.
It’s March, and an unusual one at that. Here in Wisconsin we have had temperatures that are warm enough to set records…and set spring in motion earlier than many can remember. It’s interesting what the onset of warm weather does to people, especially women. I’ve overheard folks speak of how wonderful the weather is and what a treat it is, but I have also heard lots of comments about body issues. What they have to change about themselves now that warm weather is upon us. Loose weight, get a tan, paint your toes, shave your legs…and on and on. Why? It seems, in part…or whole…we don’t accept ourselves and our bodies. We feel we’re not OK just as we are.
Well, forgive my blunt words…but, THAT’S CRAP!
Yeah, yeah…I love painted toes that peek out from my sandals. I’m all for eating delicious and healthy food. I feel good when I walk, especially in nature. But only if it puts a smile on my face and pep in my step. Not because I am counting steps or tracking the burning of calories. I could go on and on.
In my view, there’s a difference between wanting to express beauty, feel good in your biology, nourish and support your body….AND…listening to the voices of culture or outside authorities who say EVERYONE must do specific things in order to be acceptable or healthy in one way or another.
Now I’m certain the potential exists that I’ll get push back from this post about how wrong I am. Please be clear…I’m NOT saying exercise or weight loss is wrong. I’m NOT saying it’s inappropriate to want to look a particular way. But, a deep knowing and truth recently surged through me that I can’t shake (nor do I want to). And, in the wake of that knowing, I feel even more strongly that the only thing worth my time and attention regarding health and your body… is TO LOVE YOUR BODY…right now. Simply love it…and out of love, listen to it and respond to those needs and desires.
Ever notice the crazy pendulum pattern that exists in the medical field. It’s been going on for years and years. One month they say eggs are unhealthy and are gonna kill ya…and three months later they’re espousing their benefits. Eat chocolate…sugar is bad for you. Red wine is good for your health…don’t drink! This confuses us. This tips us off balance. This frustrates us. It doesn’t make us better informed about our health, bodies, and well being. The proponents have an agenda. And their concern is rarely for you and me.
You know what’s best for you. Listening to your body and your intuition, discerning for yourself what information is relevant. Really listening! Really discerning! Sometimes you do just “feel” like eating cookies. Other times you may “feel” like just having a cup of hot lemon water. Can you trust you, trust your body? Can you stop trying to control it? Can you allow it to balance and rejuvenate as it knows how to do? Can you love it and accept it as it is calling out for you to do? That’s my choice!
That said, I’d like to share the piece I journaled from the day I experienced this deep truth, love and acceptance:
Today I burst into tears and just sobbed when I suddenly realized how mean and brutal I’d been to my body. The awful things I’ve said to it, believed about it, done to it. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I certainly wouldn’t let anyone else talk to me or treat me this way. And as I sat with this new awareness, slowly teasing apart the knotted thoughts, feelings and beliefs, I realized that many of the voices and messages creating this painful, sometimes unrelenting barrage of criticism and judgment weren’t even mine to begin with. But, over time, I’d taken them on and accepted them as if they were mine. Layers and layer of others’ shame, self loathing, wrongness, guilt. Finally, after years of peeling back the layers I reached the core. That’s not mine. What’s left, what’s mine is unconditional love, unconditional acceptance. I feel lit up and aglow with this new wisdom. Light, radiant, beautiful. Tremendous clarity. Such a sacred insight. My cup runeth over.
Think of the magazines and the commercials and the billboards and your family and your friends and, and, and…it’s endless…telling you or implying that you need to change something about you…that you’re not good enough as you are…you can only feel good about how you look and who you are when you _____ (fill in the blank…loose weight, run a particular distance, get rid of your wrinkles). And in this new light of awareness, how horrible and wrong it felt to continue the pattern, the habit of anything unloving of self.
Look at it from your body’s point of view…it’s this beautifully elegant, complex, yet simple and profound system and biology. With you from the very beginning…from your inception…morphing from a few little cells into a human being…changing with you at every phase of your life. Adaptable, flexible, self healing, always knowing what to do without you having to tell it. This incredible, amazing vehicle that gets you around in the world. This beautiful temple to house your spirit. This wonderful body that efficiently combines thought and biology.
Stop. Really feel into that. It is a miracle. YOU…are a miracle.
This beautiful body that is your unique identity in the world. Acting as a mirror for your beliefs. It is with you for your whole life. It is the home where all your manifestations are delivered. It allows you to express, create, experience beauty, make love, and eat chocolate. A miracle, I say. Absolute magic!
And what do we do to it…judge it, deny it, criticize it, hate it, cut it, doubt it. We compare it…to others, to what we think it should be, to how it was years ago. Call it wrong, call it bad, call it into question. We stuff drugs into it, we don’t appreciate it, and we don’t see it for the beautiful servant that it is.
Wow. I almost can’t believe that I’m 46, that I’ve been on my spiritual journey for longer than I can remember, and that this profound insight just hit me this deeply, this clearly, for the first time.
Embodying my body…at home in my body…truly loving it and being in it with joy and appreciation for it…hmmmm…what a wonderful way to live!
So I say to you, my dear body, I LOVE YOU! Right now! Forever more!
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Friends, as the days get longer and warmer, I hope you can enjoy them in a way that includes honor and appreciation for your body and time for you to be with you.
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